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Inner Security is an Inside Job By Dorothy M. Neddermeyer, PhD
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| Saturday, December 27, 2008 |
In a relationship of love May you discover that you expect your partner to give you a sense of security, love and validation that you are worthy.
The fulfillment of its needs vis-à-vis a loving relationship creates a sense of emotional security and integrity, a sense of balance and well-being. However, it is totally at the request of another person. Many people frequently to his / her partner feel loved and safe. The truth of the matter, it is its own responsibility to create feelings of love from the inside. The happiness and the feeling of being loved is an "inside" job.
If you feel ill and needy with your partner, you need to work through your feelings to gain a better understanding of your needs. Asking these questions will help you guide your sense of need and insecurity.
I was loved unconditionally as a child?
-My father was emotionally available?
My mother is emotionally available?
-Do/Did My parents have a loving relationship?
I was physically punished (spanked, hit, hit, beaten) as a child?
I was a sexually abused child?
Did either of my parents say: "You'll never amount to anything." Why can not you like your sister / brother? "Or other negative statements and putdown.
You need to focus on creating your internal security, confidence, courage and love you unconditionally. When you rely on another to create your internal security, confidence, courage and love unconditionally you are left vulnerable to their version of what constitutes security, confidence, courage and the 'unconditional love. Not only that, when created by another, it may choose to fulfill this role or withdraw.
When you rely on you to your deepest need you to become stronger, balanced and all. So you are able to respond to life on equal ground with others and together you can create a happy relationship.
Dorothy M. Neddermeyer, PhD, Life Coach, hypnotherapist, author, "101 Great ways to improve your life." Dr. Dorothy has the unique gift of connecting people with a wide range of profound principles that resonate in the most deep of his being. It brings awareness to concepts are not generally evident everyday thoughts and feelings. http://www.drdorothy.net
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