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Experiences from ‘The Flow’ (13) - Farang: Compatibility Issues II by: Carl "JC" Pantejo
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| Thursday, November 20, 2008 |
"Prosperity: The eternal flow of all that is good in life ..."
* Below is the thirteenth episode of a series of events of real life lived by the author. The only deviations from the truth May the names of people and places. These stories are also incorporated in "My Friend Yu - The Prosperity Mentor: Book II," Pantejo - YN Vurce Publishing. Release date: 2008.
"Compatibility is the degree to which you and your partner are of the same temperament, well adapted to each other, well adapted, like spirit, and so on.
Since then, we must first know what we want before we can really assess compatibility, we began the process of identifying personal needs and desires.
We brainstorm.
We used the imagination to achieve your list.
We continue the process in this article with the following steps: order of priority items on your list, rank, size, and Reality Checks.
(Short Aside)
My friends:
May you have noticed, lately, my articles have been small.
Reason?
Many readers have pointed out that even if my articles are fun, information, and absorption, they tended to be much longer (over 2000 words) than usual articles (800-1000 words). Consequently, many readers simply do not have time to read in one sitting - the goal of all good articles.
Thus, in a rare example of acquiescence, I present a series of medium-sized articles to those who believe smaller sections are more acceptable.
Do not worry. The size of the article will not restrict the amount of content published.
I will just write more articles!
- About this article --
I recognize that the Western Region and Asia relations are not always composed of a Western and Asian Man Woman. There are many Western male / female relationships in Asia and the Male / Female and Male / Female couples there.
But, since the overwhelming majority of West / Asia couples are composed of a Western and Asian Woman Man, this article deals with their problems and assume they are the main recipients of the information presented below.
- Brief Recap --
In "The experience of" flow "(11) ...," we discussed one of two main reasons why the relations of the failure: poor communication.
Then, in "The experience of" Traffic "(12) ...," we started to discuss the second main reason for the failure relationship: inconsistency.
Remember, "compatibility" is the degree to which you and your partner are of the same temperament, well adapted to each other, well adapted, like spirit, and so on.
Since then, we must first know what we want before we can really assess compatibility, we began the process of identifying personal needs and desires.
We brainstorm.
We used the imagination to achieve your list.
We continue the process in this article with the following steps: order of priority items on your list, ranking items, the size of your list, and interpretation.
- Setting priorities: Vital or important? --
Okay. Let's load.
Look to your list.
Some elements seem to jump page. These articles are distinguished by Vital (can not live without) questions for you. These are the things you absolutely need your partner.
Other articles, while not vital, are nevertheless important.
If an article is neither civil nor important, it would probably not on your list first.
But it must have been one of the reasons you mentioned it. Do not delete all the elements. Keep all for now.
It is enough to classify at least important.
- Classification --
From the 'V' points, each rank against each other. Who "V" are more vital than others. Ranking (number) in order of importance to you (ie, your greatest desire or need is # 1, and so on).
Now look at the "I" (important articles).
"Me" items, which are more important than others? Consequently their number - starting with the next issue of the last row "V" point. For example, if the last "V" has been ranked # 5, the first "I" should be classified (numbered) # 6.
Again, we do not edit your list yet. We are simply re-Arranging the items to reflect their relative importance staff.
- Size: Not Reality Check. 1 --
It is time to start your match reality - somewhat.
Look to your list.
Does even the objects of Super Girl or Wonder Woman can not accomplish (for example, that "monthly 7-day Sex Marathon" you stated that "V" item # 1!)?
These types of elements should be changed or deleted.
Maybe you could change "V" # 1 point to 18 hours?
Then there elements that are mutually exclusive? That is, do you have any items on your list that are so different, opposite, or rare that you would be hard to get from any one person?
A bit like the tri-lingual, natural blonde, Asia, you mentioned that "V" point # 2, # 3 and # 4?
Decides mutually exclusive, point of opposition is more important. Then, the slightest scratch one.
I scratch "trilingual" and perhaps "natural blonde" in the list. This left me with a realistic level "Asian".
Location of your list --
If you've done all the steps in this article so far, you should now:
1. Have a list of your needs and desires (your list).
2. Each item on your list should be classified as essential ( "V") or important ( "I").
3. All articles (beginning with "V" products) should be classified (numbered) - in order of importance to you - against each other.
4. Your list should contain items that are humanly possible.
5. Your list must be free of conflict, mutually exclusive items.
- Reality Check not. 2: Is it? Can it? --
Look to your list.
Is your partner (or partners) to give you what you want, especially the Leaders' V 'items? If so, great.
Is your Blissful realistic to believe this situation will continue? Again, if so, fantastic!
If not, why?
Perhaps, now, WILL NOT.
Just ask yourself, is it able to give me what I want?
Say you need intellectual stimulation in May, but she never finished high school, do not read, and is quite hostile to return to school. Obviously, your bet can not be filled by this woman.
What if you Crave the company, but you only see each other one or two hours per day and its hours because of your conflict?
Or, if you like outdoor sports and activities, but it avoids the sunlight (because it does not want darker skin)?
To accept it. You two are simply not compatible in these areas.
And if an unfulfilled need is a really a "can not live without", it is best to move forward.
- Will it, will you? --
Watch what you want, but do not receive.
Is your partner willing to learn how to respond to your desire not satisfied? If not, you two will always be incompatible.
To accept it. Moving forward.
If it is ready to learn to meet your needs, are you willing to wait for her? If not, you two are incompatible.
To accept it. Moving forward.
- Reality Check not. 3: more and less --
Assign a plus (+) on the following issues:
1. You are now your partner. You think this is not something temporary (ie, you think you will get this need or desire fulfilled met for a long period).
2. You are not an issue, but is willing to learn to give it to you and you're willing to wait for her.
Assign a minus (-) to the following questions:
1. You do not get your partner and is not able to provide, nor is it willing to learn.
2. You do not get your partner is ready to learn to give to you, but you're not willing to wait for her.
In the next article, we continue with the process: Weighing the bonus and less.
(Continued in "The experience of" Stream "(14) - Farang: tipping of the scale. Good or bad?")
"Until next time, find" The flow and jump! "
Your friend Intrepid in this journey called life,
Carl "J.C." Pantejo
Farang, Asia, relationship, compatibility, priority, important, classification, the reality capable INCAP ready, do not want.
Note: If you want to know more about Western Asia and cultural differences, finding unconditional love, the past exorcise personal demons, and Illusive secret of happiness, please read the following articles:
"The experience of" flow ": From Heartbreak to Happiness"
"The experience of" flow "(2): coincidence or Synchronicity: Relapse in miracles ..."
"The experience of" flow "(3): LOST AND FOUND - Kindred Spirits and errors committed in haste."
"The experience of" flow "(4): LOST AND FOUND - supposed to be?"
"The experience of" flow "(5):" The Stray "
"The experience of" flow "(6):" New Beginnings, Old Endings "
"The experience of" Traffic "(7) - Living Well? Farang and Finance: The Myth"
"The experience of" flow "(8) Living Well? Farang and Finance: reality, stupidity, and Hard Knocks. "
"The experience of" flow "(9): New Girlfriend, New Life".
"The experience of" Traffic "(10): Farang and Asians - Polarized Views."
"The experience of" Traffic "(11) - Farang: In (or plans), a long-term Western Region and Asia relationship? Read now!
"The experience of" Traffic "(12) - Farang: Square Peg, Round Hole? Compatibility problems."
"How dare she! In desperation, I learned to forgive"
"Remember who you are!"
"It is necessary to Heal Your Broken Heart? Read more. Heartbreak overcome and Illusive Learn the secrets of happiness."
(By Carl "JC" and published Pantejo Internet wide, keyword: [title of the article] or "Carl Pantejo")
Pantejo@ynvurcepublishing.com
About the author
By Carl "JC" Pantejo, Copyright February 2008
(Author "My Friend Yu - The Prosperity Mentor," Copyright August 2007. Pantejo - YN Vurce Publishing.)
He is retired U.S. military veterans. Believing that the school was too boring, I dropped out of high school early, only to earn an AA, BS and an MBA in less than 4 years, much later in life - while working time as a full Navy / Marine Corps Medic. Despite a fear of heights and deep water, it freefall parachute planes and dive ops carried out in very deep water from the open ocean.
Pantejo@ynvurcepublishing.com
http://www.ynvurcepublishing.com
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