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Experiences from ‘The Flow’(14) - Farang: Tipping the Scales. Good or Bad? by: Carl "JC" Pantejo
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| Thursday, November 20, 2008 |
"Prosperity: The eternal flow of all that is good in life ..."
* Below is the fourteenth episode of a series of events of real life lived by the author. The only deviations from the truth May the names of people and places. These stories are also incorporated in "My Friend Yu - The Prosperity Mentor: Book II," Pantejo - YN Vurce Publishing. Release date: 2008.
In "The experience of" Traffic "(13) ...», we continued the process of reviewing your present (or future) compared priority items on your list of" V "(civil) or "I" (important), Ranking, and through a few pruning Reality Checks.
In this article we continue with the process: Weighing the advantages and disadvantages.
(Quick aside: Note to my readers)
My friends:
Last month - in a rare example of acquiescence, rather than publish my usual large (over 2000 words) articles, I began to present a series of small, medium articles.
These new small items are intended for those who want to quickly read easily.
What do you think? Do you prefer a series of short articles? Or were you most happy with the previous format (ie, a smaller number of longer articles)?
Please send your comments (address at the end of this article) for me on this issue (Article size), or any other topic you'd like to see in my writing.
Regards,
Carl "J.C." Pantejo
- Recognizing the diversity --
I recognize that the Western Region and Asia relations are not always composed of a man and a woman Western Asia. There are many Western male / female relationships in Asia and the Male / Female and Male / Female couples there.
But, since the overwhelming majority of West / Asia couples consist of a Western man and a woman in Asia, this article deals with their problems and assume they are the main recipients of the information presented below.
- Quick Review --
In "The experience of" flow "(11) ...», we discussed one of two main reasons why the relations of the failure: poor communication.
Then, in "The experience of" Traffic "(12) ...», we began to discuss the second main reason for the failure relationship: Incompatibility. We've finished with your list of needs and desires.
Then, in "The experience of" Traffic "(13) ...», we continued the process in order of priority items on your list of" V "(civil) or" I "(important). In Furthermore, we have classified the articles and, after a couple a little reality, the size of your list.
In this article we continue with the process: Weighing the advantages and disadvantages.
- Current your list --
Look to your list.
It should be prioritized (ranked) in "V" (Vital) and "I" (important) objects. Items must be ordered (numbered) - in order of importance to you - against each other. They should contain elements of human achievements and be free of conflict, mutually exclusive items.
In addition, you have identified the issues that you are and not to do so from your partner.
Finally, your list should have a (+) or (-) next to each question as follows:
Plus (+) articles:
1. You are now your partner. And we believe that this is not something temporary (ie, you think you have filled this need or desire met for a long period).
2. You are not an issue, but is willing to learn to give it to you and you're willing to wait for her.
Minus (-) articles:
1. You do not get your partner and is not able to give you, it is not willing to learn.
2. You do not get your partner is ready to learn to give to you, but you're not willing to wait for her.
- Good (positive / Pluses) v. Bad (negative / negative) --
It is time to weigh the Suitehotel and against the negatives. We will now put on an imaginary "Satisfaction Scale, and see if the balance towards the point of compatibility or incompatibility.
Note: Before you start weighing the pros and on your list, you must decide what value you attach to your "V" articles or "I" articles.
Simply put, I give "V" weighing points (score) to "2", while "I" elements have a weight (score) from "1".
This means that "V" are doubly important to me that "I" articles.
May you be different. If your "V" are triple importance to your "I" articles, giving the "V" features a weight of "3" and "I" articles "1", etc.
Well, here we go.
Give all the "V" articles score (a measure of weight). In my case, they would be "2" next to each "V" point.
Now look at the "I" articles. Give all the "I" elements of your score (a measure of weight). In my case, they would be "1".
How many "V" Pluses are you?
Multiply this number by your score awarded.
For example, if you have 10 "V" More articles, the equation must be something like this: 10 (Number of "V" More Articles) x 2 (weight of "V" points) = 20 V (+).
- CAUTION, CAUTION, CAUTION! --
Do you have "V" Minus articles?
That is, the issue is the priority as a "V" (Vital, can not live without) and point:
1. You do not get - a "V" (Vital, can not live without it!) - All from your partner and it is not able to give you, it is not willing to learn .
2. You do not get - a "V" (Vital absolutely need it!) - All from your partner, is ready to learn to give to you, but you're not willing to wait for her.
If so, here's my advice: Do not prosecute (or continue) the relationship!
Stop the relationship and end this process, but keep your list.
Use your list to revive the process at your next potential partner.
Let me stress once again: In my experience, no interpersonal relationship can succeed when a person is chronically deprived of vital - a must have / can 't live without - need or desire.
So, again, consider this warning: If you have a V (-) point, avoid exposure to do! You automatically prevent a crowd of staff (and sometimes professional) problems.
'Nuff said.
- Back to weigh --
Still with me?
Let's load.
Weigh the "I" items on your list. Calculate the score (using as appropriate, under the weight of the 'I' items)
First, what weight (score) of all your "I" are Pluses.
Similar to calculate V (+) questions, if you have 10 "I" More articles, the equation must be something like this: 10 (Number of "I" More Articles) x 1 (weight of the 'I' items) = 10 I (+).
Do the same for your "I" (important) minus (-) points.
Add V (+) and I (+).
Put this sum on the (+) "Compatibility" on your side "Satisfaction Scale.
Put that weight on I (-) "incompatibility" on your side "Satisfaction Scale.
What is your "Satisfaction Scale" look today?
Is it balanced?
Does the peak level (or slightly open) to one side?
What do you think? Compatible or incompatible?
Keep this image in your mind.
It May (May or not) be obvious to you now.
You think you're done? Far from it.
If you stop now - to think that you are Pat, you steal your the last, most important measures (ie, the interpretation of your results, identifying acceptable conditions: Other Views Satisfaction, Relation with individual philosophies, etc.).
We start the interpretation of your results in the next article. In this report I will explain why the relationship neutral (ie, your balance is balanced, no movement) are left alone.
(Continued in "The experience of" Stream "(15) - Farang: Interpretation of your results.")
"Until next time, find" The flow and jump! "
Your friend Intrepid in this journey called life,
Carl "J.C." Pantejo
Farang, Asia, relationship vital, important, positive, negative, compatibility, satisfaction, scale, needs, desires.
Note: If you want to know more about Western Asia and cultural differences, finding unconditional love, past exorcise personal demons, and Illusive secret of happiness, please read the following articles:
"The experience of" flow ": From Heartbreak to Happiness"
"The experience of" flow "(2): coincidence or Synchronicity: DE relapse in miracles ..."
"The experience of" flow "(3): LOST AND FOUND - Kindred Spirits and mistakes made in haste."
"The experience of" flow "(4): LOST AND FOUND - supposed to be?"
"The experience of" flow "(5):" The Stray "
"The experience of" flow "(6):" New Beginnings, Old Endings "
"The experience of" Traffic "(7) - Living Well? Farang and Finance: The Myth"
"The experience of" flow "(8) Living Well? Farang and Finance: reality, stupidity, and Hard Knocks. "
"The experience of" flow "(9): New Girlfriend, New Life".
"The experience of" Traffic "(10): Farang and Asians - Polarized Views."
"The experience of" Traffic "(11) - Farang: In (or plans), a long-term Western Region and Asia relationship? Read now!
"The experience of" Traffic "(12) - Farang: Square Peg, Round Hole? Compatibility problems."
"The experience of" Traffic "(13) - Farang: compatibility problems II
"How dare she! In desperation, I learned to forgive"
"Remember who you are!"
"It is necessary to Heal Your Broken Heart? Read more. Heartbreak overcome and learn from Illusive Secret of Happiness.
(By Carl "JC" and published Pantejo Internet wide, keyword: [title of the article] or "Carl Pantejo")
Pantejo@ynvurcepublishing.com
About the author
By Carl "JC" Pantejo, Copyright February 2008
(Author "My Friend Yu - The Prosperity Mentor," Copyright August 2007. Pantejo - YN Vurce Publishing.)
He is a former U.S. military veteran. Believing that the school was too boring, he quit school prematurely, only to get an AA, BS and an MBA in less than 4 years, much later in life - while working full time As a Navy / Marine Corps Medic. Despite a fear of heights and deep water, it freefall parachute on planes and dive ops carried out in very deep water from the open ocean.
Pantejo@ynvurcepublishing.com
http://www.ynvurcepublishing.com
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